Late Bloomer Bliss

They say transparency is the new black. Well I’m going to try it on for size, let’s see how this goes…

A few weeks ago I decided to embrace a couple of my biggest fears: writing, and one of my (past) biggest stumbling blocks: being a “late bloomer”.  In an effort to explore, grow, and build in accountability I decided to take a writing course. Below I share with you one of my writing assignments. A simple essay in which, of course, I discuss a few of the blissful points of being a late bloomer.  Please tell me what you think.  I can’t wait to hear about the late bloomer bonuses you’ve experienced.

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The only thing I ever did early was go gray. The early gray highlighted how green I was at everything else. Perhaps it was innocence, perhaps it was naiveté, but I was deaf to the sound of life calling. When I finally heard it, I was late to the party. Years late.

I got my license at 22, had my first beer at 23, moved from home at 25, experienced my first kiss at 26 –you get the picture. I’m what you call a “late bloomer”.  And not of the stereotypical glamorous variety. I’m not a Grandma Moses, Cezanne, or even a Susan Boyle. We can’t all be superstars, and I’ve made my peace with that. Because celebrity or not, our late arrivals come with hidden bonuses. By the time we achieve our little blossoms of success we’re set up quite nicely to receive them. That license at 22 came with a car, my first beer was in Paris, and my first kiss was on my own terms.

As much as our culture promotes and worships early wins, late bloomers have proven there is nothing wrong with taking time to find our calling, passion, and eventually success.  We’re onto something good here. A quick scan of triumphant late bloomers tells you they tend to be more persistent, curious, and mindful of what really matters in life.  And, because they have acquired more life experience than their early achieving counterparts, they respond to the highs and lows with more awareness, grace, and appreciation.

But still, the questions beg to be asked, why are they late? And more importantly, what are they late for? Whether we are early, average, or late bloomers, we each have our backstories that place us on our current path. Some use the stories as excuses, and some use the stories as a launch-pad.

Late bloomers use them as a training ground. Without knowing the exact science, they seem to have a knack for cultivating their visions, passions, and talents just long enough to deliver and share the beautiful bloom that results.  Seen through this perspective, it would appear that late bloomers aren’t really late at all. Perhaps just a little unexpected.

By definition, a late bloomer is someone who comes into their own later than their peers. By definition, there are a lot of us in the world. Perhaps even you have a few buds of unexpected gifts waiting to blossom.

December 1st, 2013|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Late Bloomer Bliss|

YOU ARE AN IRONMAN!

Until you face your fears, you don't move to the other side, where you find the power. -Mark Allen, Six time Ironman World Champion

For a minute I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself because I hadn’t yet finished my blog post for the week. Not that I don’t enjoy doing it but you know how it is.  Life happens and sometimes gets in the way of you getting things done. And it’s easy to go with that isn’t it? It’s easy to tell yourself it’s ok and that you’ll do better next week.

Do you know what’ll slap that kind of thinking out of you quicker than you can say “Lame!”?

Remembering that your friends are doing, as you write your blog post, the Ironman race.

Yeah. Feeling pretty wimpy now, aren’t you?

The Ironman is a freakin’ incredibly demanding and difficult physical, mental and emotional challenge. It consists of a 2.4 mile swim, a 112 mile bike race and a 26.2 mile marathon run. Can you believe it?! Look at those numbers again! Any one of those races on their own would be a formidable task, but all three of them, one right after the other. Insanity. Yet thousands of people sign up to push past their comfort zone out of their limits and to the extreme.
And two of those people are friends of mine that, obviously, are very special people.
I’m talking special, beyond the grit and guts it takes to do a race like this.

You see this is the 3rd time they both do this. One of them has accomplished it twice -amazing right? Now this is where my mind gets blown, the other friend has not been able to finish in time. Twice before he’s tried and twice he’s come up short.
Anyone at that point would say it’s ok, good try, I gave it my best and let it go. And it would be ok, wouldn’t it?
But not him. He got himself up and put himself out there…again. He’s done this again, and again, and again.

What an incredible example of resiliency, determination and commitment he has chosen to be. He did not pick the easy way out when it would have perfectly fine for him to do so. I know for a fact he has inspired more lives than he’ll ever know about.

As I watch the live coverage of Ironman AZ, I realize my friend is right where he belongs. He’s surrounded by amazing people, that like him continue to push themselves, continue to challenge and continue to grow. I just saw an older couple cross the finish line together holding hands, another man just completed his 102nd Ironman race!

My friends still have to cross the finish line but Ironman or not, they are big winners to me.

Now, pardon me as I go back to watching the live coverage. I don’t want to miss when my two friends cross the finish line and the announcer says “Tiffany, you are a three time Ironman! and no doubt some of the sweetest words my friend Andre will ever hear “Andre YOU are an Ironman!”.
Thank you Andre and Tiffany, I love you. YOU ARE AN IRONMAN!

November 17th, 2013|Uncategorized|4 Comments|

Get over the “late” and start to bloom

When you see the term late bloomer, who do you think of? Typically you think of some toddler or youth that is a bit late in developing certain skills or someone middle age or older that has unexpectedly reached significant success or celebrity.
And then there’s the rest of us.
We made it through our toddler years and adolescence mostly unscathed but we don’t quite fit the other group either. We’re not celebrities, we don’t make bestselling novels or paint masterpieces.

We are, despite our fears and challenges however, exploring and discovering our passion(s). We realize that we may be a bit late to the game but we forge ahead anyway. And that’s the exciting part isn’t it?
We are over the “late” and into the “blooming”.
The “lateness” is relative anyway.  What might be late for me may be perfectly normal for you.
I’ve had the fortune of meeting people that have decided to try their hand at  writing, painting, entrepreneurship and even parenthood at a much later time in life than expected. And even though they are considered late, by mainstream standards, their decisions and choices couldn’t have been more perfectly timed for their lifestyle and personality.
So my invitation to you is to is to embrace your inner late bloomer and get blooming.

Because life is better late than regretted.
How will you blossom?

November 10th, 2013|Uncategorized|2 Comments|

Two Biggest Fears Ever

Two of my biggest fears are 1) writing 2) being too old to accomplish anything in life.

And I’ve found that I’m certainly not the only one with those two precise fears. There’s a lot to unpack in both those topics. And I will, in future posts. These aren’t just pesky little annoying quirks. No, this is hard stuff for me. If I let myself go deep enough into the fear of it, it’s paralyzing.

“But Gina, you’ve written before, you even have another blog.” I hear from friends. Not the same thing. When you’re using your fear #1 to explore fear #2, well that’s 2 fears are compounded by…well you do the math. All I know is it’s hard.

But eventually you reach that point where the pain of not doing something about it becomes more unbearable than doing something about it. So what am I doing about it? Naturally, I’m writing a blog about embracing your inner late bloomer.
I realize  doing this type of thing is a walk in the park for many people out there, but that doesn’t make me feel any less vulnerable. But I will have rather tried than not tried at all. There are no guarantees. I may do both of these things badly, but not doing them is far more painful.
I say to my dance students “No excuses, no regrets, no apologies”.  And now it’s time to go there myself.
In this video, Ishita Gupta, editor of the online magazine Fearless does a great job of reminding us to stop running. It’s time to face your fears and finally release the baggage that weighs you down and keeps you from doing, getting and being who you truly are.

I told you mine, what are yours? What 2 fears are you facing today? What challenges scare the hell out of you? Are you ready to put them behind you? Tell me in the comments below what 2 things you fear that you would love to change. Be a part of this, and watch your inner late bloomer start to kick ass!

November 7th, 2013|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Two Biggest Fears Ever|

Welcome. You’re right on time.

Hello (so called) late bloomers of all ages. Welcome home!

I’ve been playing with the idea of starting this blog for a while but have been too scared to do so. Which is precisely why I’m getting over myself and finally doing it.

I’m done. I’m done playing small. I’m done acting or not acting out of fear.  I’m done feeling inadequate and pretending that everything is fine. No I don’t have all the answers, but hell,  who does? Thanks to a perfectly timed blog post by Scott Dinsmore of Live Your Legend fame, I got the kick in the pants I needed to get moving on this.

Insecurity, vulnerability, self-doubt, uncertainty — all the things that suck about putting ourselves “out there” are the very same reasons new and challenging projects are so exciting, cathartic and crucial to our growth. You see it’s my view, and I’m not alone, that it is never too late to learn, expand, and develop as a person. It is never too late to come into your own.

It is never too late to bloom into your greatest self.

Even when the world makes you feel as if you’re late to the “party”. I’m here to tell you that is simply not true. You are a Punctual Bloomer. You are right on time.

Your milestones or your successes may not match the commonly accepted timeline of your peers but I, and deep down you, know they were perfectly timed.

I’m excited to share, explore and learn more about the advantages, amazingness and ass-kickery that exists in our world of, so called, late bloomers. Thank you for coming along and making this journey even better. I cannot wait to hear your story.

Welcome Punctual Bloomers and see you on the next post!

Gina

 

 

October 31st, 2013|Uncategorized|5 Comments|